What must a person do to experience sexual pleasure?

Question

Hello doctor,

I have been struggling for quite a while, and I cannot find the reason behind my problem. I lost my virginity about ten months ago. I am a very horny person and was excited to enter the world of sex. However, as soon as I did, I noticed something was wrong with me. I am always sexually stimulated and cannot wait to be intimate with him. However, the problem is that when he inserts his penis, I do not feel any sexual pleasure. It is the same with fingering or oral sex and even with masturbation. When he put his finger in my mouth, I could feel it, but there was no pleasure. I still enjoy the intimacy and love seeing him, but I would like to experience sexual pleasure. I have been to the doctor's office, but she could not comment anything and sent me to an expert. However, I have been waiting and will probably get an appointment in two to three years. I have also searched online but could not find anyone with the same problem. I have been suffering from this problem for one year. Can you please help?

Thank you.

Answer 1

Hello,

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I understand that the anterior part of the vagina, clitoris, and the skin around the area is richly supplied with sensory receptors. Therefore it is quite normal to become wet by oral sex and masturbation rather than the insertion of the penis. I appreciate that only 1/3rd of the vagina has sensory nerves, and as the penis is introduced beyond that area, you will only get vague feelings. However, it is a fact that many women get wet by foreplay, oral sex, and masturbation rather than penetration of the penis. Therefore, I suggest more emphasis should be made on foreplay before the insertion of the penis so that the vagina is properly lubricated for easy insertion of the penis.