How to manage exam anxiety and emotional stress at 19?

Question

Hello doctor,

I am 19 years old. Last year, I failed the maths exam, and now I am trying to pass it. My exam is next month. My mind is telling me not to study because I already know what is going to happen. My father keeps asking me when I have an exam or do you study. My nerves can not handle this anymore.

After a few minutes, I started crying for no reason. The same thing happens when my father yells at me. I fall into a bad mood. I start feeling bad. When this happens, I cannot listen to music, I cannot watch TV, or do anything else. It feels like I am dying inside. I do not know what to do, honestly. They would probably think that I am not a grown man, but I cannot help myself. I really want to know what I should do. I am nearly giving up.

I would be grateful for your help.

Thank you.

Answer 1

Hi,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

I read your query and can understand your concern.

Failure can make you feel nervous and a little less of yourself, but understand that your self-worth does not depend on exam results. Everyone has their own strength and weaknesses. You, too, are good at something and bad at others.

Clearly, you are under a lot of stress. I would suggest you talk to someone you can trust and share your feelings. Also, I would recommend talking to a counselor, psychologist, or therapist. They will help you cope with stress and anxiety and teach you techniques to have better control over yourself, and also you can learn some study techniques which will help you perform better.

Again, remember you are not your exam results. I am sure you have amazing potential. You just need to find out what you are good at and become the best version of yourself.

I hope this helps.

Kindly revert so I can assist you further.

Thank you.