How to relieve depression in a 24-year-old female stuck in a relationship with a six-month younger male with a toxic family history?

Question

Hi doctor,

I am 24 years old, and I am working. I have been in a relationship for the past six years. He is six months younger than me. But presently, I do not find any feelings for him. It is not like I like any other man. But he is not serious about his career. And he has many family issues that I learned about a few days ago. His father beats his mother after getting drunk. When I learned about this, I seriously wanted to discontinue this relationship as I did not want to get married to such a family. But he is very emotional and depends upon me a lot. He behaves immaturely. I dare if I tell him he would commit suicide or start intoxication. So, thinking about this, I get depressed every day.

Please help.

Answer 1

Hi,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

I went through your query and understood your concern. Sometimes we may decide to discontinue a relationship based on various reasons, and that is perfectly normal. Also, no one has a right to hold you back by threatening suicide. You can sit with him and explain that you do not want this anymore but do not mind being friends. Ask him to seek counseling if he cannot cope with the breakup. Maybe you can do it gradually instead of abruptly cutting off, giving him a chance to recover.

I hope this has helped you out. Kindly follow up if you have more doubts. Take care.