How to stop negative thoughts related to sexual orientation?

Question

Hello doctor,

I am in stress because a few days back my mom was scolding me, and I was having tension about my career, so I got an anxiety attack. My forehead was sweating with a burning sensation, and my chest was feeling heavy. During that stressful phase, I opened social media and saw a video on bisexuality, and suddenly I started thinking along those lines. I know, and I am certainly sure that I am not bisexual by any means. But it got embedded in my mind. It has been two days but I cannot get out of it. Whenever I think about it, it stresses me out. I am 100 % sure that I am straight, and I am not suppressing my feelings about it. I guess the concept got connected to my stress. A similar thing happened last year when I started doubting my religion. Please suggest me a way to get out of it.

Answer 1

Hi,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

I read your query and can understand your concern.

You may have an anxiety disorder. There is non-pharmacological management for it, you should try to follow the below guidelines to deal with it. It will help you.

1. You should exercise daily for 30 to 45 minutes like at least going for a walk. It will uplift your mood.

2. You should do meditation for 20 minutes daily. Just sit in one place in a comfortable position and try to concentrate on your normal breathing. Do not stop or force yourself to stop your thoughts, just let them be. It will reduce anxiety and decrease thoughts.

3. You should eat healthy home-cooked foods, and avoid junk foods.

4. You must drink enough water.

5. You should spend quality time with friends and family daily.

6. Limit the use of social media.

7. Stay away from pornography.

8. You should spend time on creative hobbies like reading good books, writing journals, painting, drawing, and learning new skills, language, or musical instruments.

9. You should take 7 to 8 hours of sleep daily.

10. You must avoid tobacco, alcohol, or any substance abuse.

11. Live your life, do not just spend it. Be bold and confident.

I hope that you get your answer.

Please, let me know if you want some help.

Thank you.