I am an angry and a miserable person. How can I change myself?

Question

Hello doctor,

I am an angry and miserable person to live with. My poor fiance is constantly getting sucked into my expert-level fight tornadoes. I am a master at it. It is like I am enjoying every bit of it. I truly do not want to. I wish I could change. I know it is a problem, but it is always after the fight. I never seem to intercept my behavior and change it before it occurs. I also know there is likely no black-and-white answer to my question. I am on a waitlist to see a psychiatrist but it is likely going to be a while. Can you maybe help me find a temporary fix? I do not want to be this way.

Answer 1

Hello,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

The following tips can help you tame your anger. We are basically trying to prevent you from acting out. Practice relaxation techniques like breath relaxation exercise daily. Whenever you feel like getting angry, breathe slowly and deeply from your diaphragm. You can either do reverse counting from 20 to zero or imagine a relaxing imagery while deep breathing. Many times logic defies anger. Try to tell yourself that anger is not going to solve the problem. Retrospectively think of an alternative behavior in that situation and try to change it. Regards.